to [have] focused one's attention on something that one would like to have [had] at all costs, e.g. a young girl as a wife, however, on having not attained [one's desire], to give to understand by one's facial expression that one wishes to have nothing more to do in connection with the affair. When a man has had his first love refused, he does not feel inclined to [exercise] a second [choice]. Against the background of his first love, the shadow of a second [choice] always leaves its imprint, especially among pagans, and with little prospect of better success.